Summer games

I have previously discussed generational changes and the way in which relationships vary from what they were to what they are. I have come to a conclusion which is that I am an old soul stuck in a generation of games, deceit, and lies. Do not get me wrong, all of this may have happened in the old times as well, but now, I feel like our generation glorifies it all. And again, do not get me wrong because I have likely partook in this trend myself at some point in time.

There is no such thing as taboo subjects which to some extent is a good thing because it allows for free interpretation and speech. However, it also gives the false impression that since something is no longer taboo, it is also acceptable to do and flaunt.

This most definitely applies to relationships and the fact that they are no longer about two people loving each other and supporting each other through thick and thin. Our generation has allowed for easy detachment from the responsibilities of a relationships because we rely heavily on "side things" and finding a replacement quickly via "tinder" or associating apps.

The truth is that yes, a relationship is a lot of work. You need to have two individuals equally invested in making it work who are willing to work through arising issues and solve them together without giving up on one another. You need to have trust and somebody who is not "playing games". Somebody who does not have "side things" and is not only "seeing you or talking to you". We are the generation of labels that are so much more intricate than what used to exist. There is no longer just your basic single or in a relationship. All the while, in the previous post I discussed the other intervening factors such as race and religion which with the trends of today, serve as the cherry on top of a shit show.

And it is just so confusing.

In the summer, people like to have "summer flings" which are expected to end by fall because people go back to school and have other things more important to worry about. Feelings get hurt.

The winter is "cuffing season" which is the time to find someone to cuddle with while watching movies by the fireplace. But even that, if it is not serious, is supposed to end before Christmas so that you do not have to buy that person a present and make this "thing" look more serious than it actually is.

It really sounds messed up does it not?

And yet, we are so accustomed to this trend of life that it seems almost weird if somebody wants a true relationship with only one person. More than that, it seems weird if people assume that their counterpart might also be in this for the same reason. And then we become subject to even more labels. If a guy is looking for a relationship and the girl is not, he becomes "whipped". If a girl is looking for something serious and approaches it as such, she becomes "crazy", "obsessive", "possessive". It never ends.

And then, you reach an age. Usually your late 20's when you start to realize that you are getting a little too old to keep "playing games" and you want to settle down. You want to move out and perhaps build a home with someone. But by that time, a lot of people have gone through stuff. Trust issues, a form of PTSD from failed "things".

And all of these things are products that are brought into that new relationship you would like to approach.

Is this a recipe for disaster?