Being dealt a shitty hand and calling it resilience

Resilience is the ability to recover quickly from difficulty, it's supposed to show that someone is tough and can take on hardship and deal with it. At various points in my life I have been told that I am very resilient and I always took it as a compliment because I like to feel strong enough to deal with whatever is thrown at me. However, now more than ever, I am thinking about that other side of resilience that people don't see from the outside looking in. What if you have no intention of being this resilient being but you just have to? What if there isn't really another option other than to deal with this hardship that is being thrown at you?

I think in some sense, resilience is kind of bullshit because most times, you don't necessarily choose to be resilient, but rather have to do it.

I'm someone who feels deeply and I have a hard time detaching from people, things, places if I truly care about said people, things or places. In recent weeks, I have been challenged with attempting detachment and seeing the situation at hand for what it is rather than what I wish it was. I was told to take off my rose-coloured glasses and put myself in a position of questioning where my self-worth stands in the midst of the situation. In some sense, I had to practice resilience and choose myself, even if all I wanted to do was keep fighting for what I want.

Sometimes, the best practice to getting what you want is letting go and letting things just fall into place naturally. Don't force, don't try and control and practice resilience by doing absolutely nothing at all.

As a person who feels deeply, this is probably the hardest type of resilience I have ever had to practice because I am forced to not take a single action even if all I want to do is be involved.

Sometimes you will get dealt shitty hands and sometimes, just sometimes, you might have to do a whole lot of nothing in order to ultimately achieve what you want.